I'm "on my own" every other weekend. You know the job she has. I often say, I have a taste of what being a single parent is like. That's crap though. I'm not taking care of all those things she does that keep us afloat. I'm just alone with the kids for 16 of the 24 hours those days. Single parents like my mom, have it so much harder. As far as being told we are doing a great job and our significant not getting that praise, that's because most of us are dopes.
Default parent - The parent chosen when none is specified or when one is missing. I also like the term Dadding. If Mothers are mothering then I'm dadding. I gave up on using Father (Fathering) as that term conures up the imagine of the person around at the moment of conception, but maybe not the guy putting in the work later. I Dad in default at least one 4 day weekend a month while my wife is traveling for work. One 5 year old and 4 year old twins does tend to keep my head on a swivel.
It sounds like you're a great dad doing the job you signed up to do. It sucks that some people feel like fathers are essentially part-time parents who only have to pick up the slack when the mothers are away. I hope those views change overtime. Thank you for sharing this.
Great post here Michael. You had me at Ed Reed. I’ve long said there is truly a special place in heaven for single parents. I don’t know how they do it. Grateful I have a wife and only have to run point some of the time.
I have some thoughts on why less is expected of fathers re: raising children. Curious to see if you delve into that in future posts. Regardless, I hit subscribe. Keep bringing it! 👊
Hey Matt, thanks for the kind words and the subscription!
I have a story about that concept that I've been pitching to national outlets for a little while now (I'm a freelance writer by day) to no avail. I have a few more editors that I want to pitch and if no luck, I'll publish it here. But like you, I have thoughts on the topic for sure!
I try to never use the term single parenting - I call it point parenting like I'm running point guard. Love the Ed Reed reference!
I really like the saying, "point parenting."
I’m definitely using point parenting. Currently has the ball, doesn’t always have the ball. Love that.
"Point parenting." I love that!
I'm "on my own" every other weekend. You know the job she has. I often say, I have a taste of what being a single parent is like. That's crap though. I'm not taking care of all those things she does that keep us afloat. I'm just alone with the kids for 16 of the 24 hours those days. Single parents like my mom, have it so much harder. As far as being told we are doing a great job and our significant not getting that praise, that's because most of us are dopes.
exactly! I used to say that shit all the time... "I'm a single dad this weekend."
Except a single dad/parent doesn't have reinforcements coming home on Sunday evening.
Default parent - The parent chosen when none is specified or when one is missing. I also like the term Dadding. If Mothers are mothering then I'm dadding. I gave up on using Father (Fathering) as that term conures up the imagine of the person around at the moment of conception, but maybe not the guy putting in the work later. I Dad in default at least one 4 day weekend a month while my wife is traveling for work. One 5 year old and 4 year old twins does tend to keep my head on a swivel.
It sounds like you're a great dad doing the job you signed up to do. It sucks that some people feel like fathers are essentially part-time parents who only have to pick up the slack when the mothers are away. I hope those views change overtime. Thank you for sharing this.
Thank you for reading!! And yeah, man, we gotta keep doing the work to redefine the role and the expectations.
Great post here Michael. You had me at Ed Reed. I’ve long said there is truly a special place in heaven for single parents. I don’t know how they do it. Grateful I have a wife and only have to run point some of the time.
I have some thoughts on why less is expected of fathers re: raising children. Curious to see if you delve into that in future posts. Regardless, I hit subscribe. Keep bringing it! 👊
Hey Matt, thanks for the kind words and the subscription!
I have a story about that concept that I've been pitching to national outlets for a little while now (I'm a freelance writer by day) to no avail. I have a few more editors that I want to pitch and if no luck, I'll publish it here. But like you, I have thoughts on the topic for sure!